Kellie Pickler's Advice for Young Women – Stay Single
Kellie Pickler's new, self-titled album is brimming with breakup songs. Considering that she's a favorite among young women, I asked her to share any advice for those girls with broken hearts.
"I think the best advice that I could give a younger girl -- and this is for someone in elementary school through high school -- I would just advise young girls to not get into serious relationships so young," she says. "I'm from a small town, so it's kind of expected of you. When I graduated, there were girls in my graduating class that were barefoot and pregnant walking across the stage and the guy was not anyone to take home. And it's already leading to a road of disaster."
She adds, "I think the problem starts at home because a lot of kids don't have a relationship with their parents, so they look for that comfort and that acceptance and that love from a boy, because that's kind of the next best thing. You get so serious with a guy in school and you miss out on so many wonderful opportunities. I was actually in a relationship before American Idol, where I was with someone who wasn't supportive of my career. And at the time it felt like, 'I really care about this guy and I love him.' You feel all these things that you're not mature enough to handle and you don't really know what you want.
"So my best advice would be to not get in a relationship," she says. "Have fun, enjoy your childhood, enjoy your youth and your friends, and enjoy going out on the town with your girlfriends and sleepovers and football games and sporting activities. Kids settle so young. I'm 22 and there's no way in hell I'm gonna get married anytime soon because there's so much I want to do."
Listen to Kellie Pickler's self-titled album on Rhapsody, featuring three bonus songs.
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Donna Wayer says:
Not only beautiful put smart too!! Good advice Kellie, I Was one of those girls who got married very young and divorced very young I have regreted it my whole live!!!! So please listen to Kellie and enjoy your life, You have plenty of time, Find out who you are, the rest will come in time!!!!!!
countryfan11 says:
You tell ‘em Kellie girl! I had my 1st kid at 16 and wish’d I’d never listened to a boy’s crap- til at least 25. Your video is wonderful. btw “blue eyes” promise everything too- not worth it! GREAT message to young women.
Kim says:
Yeah, thats very true in some cases, but there are exceptions. lets ask Ashton Shepard (21, 2 and a half year old son) and her husband how they make it. She needs to tell both sides. it depends on the girl, the guy and the circumstances.
Dana says:
I agree. this is just something to think about, but there are examples of both situations in country music today: Ashton, as Kim mentioned, and Gretchen Wilson. I appreciate kellie looking after young girls, but she’s never been there. she’s speaking from observation not experience, but that doesn’t mean she’s wrong.
Kellie says:
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Rob says:
I agree with the live while you’re young and let love come later, but that last comment about “I’m 22 and there’s no way in hell I’m gonna get married anytime soon because there’s so much I want to do.” what does that mean? not all guys put women down Kellie! If she’s referring to kids that’s one thing, I understand that, but seems to me she implied that life was over after marriage. There are guys supportive of their woman’s career! I don’t like that she threw that blanket statement over things like that. Its all right to marry young. I agree with Kim. Nothing’s that black and white, and a young relationship is ok.
countryfan11 says:
I think Kellie’s point is so many young girls make guys their whole life- like they can only BE “whole” if they have a guy in their life. Sounds like my 14-going on 21 yo granddaughter. I keep telling her she has PLENTY of time for guys. They meet someone cute and all sense goes out their head- I speak from experience and I hear all my granddaughters talk. It may NOT be black & white, I just think young girls should seek a variety of healthy activities and make LOTS of friends before tying themselves down. And I’m sorry, I don’t know a lot of guys who are that supportive when young,older maybe.
selena says:
i love this girl she is too cute i think she is sweet and genuine carrie and kelly are amazing
Essence says:
I agree. There is plenty of times for guys. Just have fun and enjoy your youth!
TxAgg says:
I admit I had my doubts about Kellie in the beginning. Mostly because she was having to ride the tails of Carrie Underwood’s major success. I wasn’t sure if she would be able to hang on. But then the song “I Wonder” did wonders for me and my opinion of her. Who knew that under that goofy exterior was such a powerful interior? And the fact that she wrote the song herself give her even more credibility with me. I’m glad to see her working her way up the ranks in the industry now.
Cj says:
Kellie you are so awesome. I pray you never change. I love that little drawl to your voice. Sounds like the real country..
countryfan11 says:
I’ve been fan of Kellie’s since IDOL days and I am SO glad she has done well. So many of those contestants you never
hear about afterwards, esp. on Nashville Star. And Kellie’s success, as well as Miranda’s proves you don’t have to win the “Title” to be successful. Kellie’s concert in the NW is the first one I’ve been to in YEARS and I hope she comes back next year- well worth it! Love her video/message too.
RedMaZ says:
Kellie is a smart woman who sings real country music.
countryfan11 says:
Oh my gosh, RedMa, I may have to write this on my calendar. You made a GOOD comment on one of MY fave artists. So, please tell me what makes Kellie a “smart woman who sings real country music.” Please tell me you weren’t being sarcastic.
Amanda says:
I too made the mistake of getting married young, and I ended up getting divorced young. It is not something any 21 year old girl should have to go through. Divorce is the hardest thing I’ve had to deal with. But even if some girls make that mistake, it’ll only make them stronger. I say follow your heart, and at least listen to what your mind says..I dont regret getting married because I learned from it, I just wish I didn’t have to learn the hard way! :)