Trisha Yearwood: It’s OK to Be Single
Trisha Yearwood has had a spectacular music career, but some people may think of her now as Mrs. Garth Brooks. Marriage is tricky that way — the person you choose is ideally a lifelong partner, but you don’t want to lose your own identity after the rings are exchanged. Of course, not everybody is up to the task. Trisha will be the first to remind you that it’s OK to be single, and in fact, she’s telling Garth’s daughters that very thing.
“Everything you see in magazines and television and media is about finding the right guy,” Yearwood says. “I want them to be happy, and if and when the right person comes along, they come along. Not, ‘I won’t be complete until I walk down the aisle.’ We are so geared toward gearing our daughters that this is your goal in life, or you’re not complete until you find a man who makes you happy. I want them to know they’re OK on their own, and when they’re happy with themselves, that’s when love – in whatever form it comes in – is going to be there. I just want them to know that.”
Sometimes I listen to Trisha sing “Hearts in Armor” or “Trying to Love You,” and I think, “Well, if this is how a relationship is going to turn out….” She has some great heartbreak songs on her upcoming album too, which is how we got to talking about being single vs. being married in the first place.
“I got married for the first time at 22 years old. I would never go back and say that was a mistake, in that he was a really nice guy,” she says. “But it was a mistake in that part of the reason I did that was because it was expected. At 22, I was one of the older people in my community to get married. My sister was 24 when she got married and that was almost not done, you know? We don’t tell that to guys. Guys are told, ‘Oh, you’ve got plenty of time.’ … You don’t know who you are at 22 years old. You don’t know who you’re going to be. Give yourself a chance. Travel the world. Find what you love to do, and then, if it happens, it happens. And if it doesn’t, it’s not the worst thing in the world.”
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HDM says:
She’s right, you shouldnt rush into anything. But like her hubby Garth says, “I’m glad I didn’t know the way it all would end, the way it all would go, our lives are better left to chance, I could’ve missed the pain, but I’d of had to miss the dance.” Sometimes, you do have to takes risks with love. In the end, you’re a better man. (That’s clint black, not garth!)
hotelmotel says:
Trisha is right. A lot of times girls get these messages that they need a man to be happy. Its just not true.
HDM mentions “The Dance” by Brooks and the line :I could have missed the pain, but I’d have had to miss the dance.”
A good point, but the opposite point can be true, sometimes. Some risks are not worth taking. Some marriages not worth having. Sometimes the pain is greater than the pleasure.
In life you sometimes have to take a chance, but you also have to learn which chances aren’t worth taking. It would be a sham to take a chance on marriage because some teen magazine says you need a man to find happiness.
tara says:
your cool