Sugarland Chooses to "Stay" True to the Song
Too often the story and heart of a song get lost in the music video. I often feel as though I’m watching the same video with different faces. Sex appeal seems to be taking the place of visual groundwork needed to support a song’s message. Too distracted with the unnecessary “eye candy,” it’s easy for a viewer, including myself, to miss the idea behind the song. Yes, the music video may be nice to look at, but for me, they’re all starting to blend together.
This was the case until I saw Jennifer Nettles’ emotional delivery in Sugarland’s latest video, “Stay.” It’s a rather simple video, as she and partner Kristian Bush are seen against a black backdrop. There are only a few camera shots with the main shot primarily being a close-up of Jennifer Nettles’ face. She is not dolled up, wearing layers of makeup or sporting a fancy outfit. She looks natural, she looks real. She exudes heartfelt emotion and strong conviction with each word. As tears start to well in her eyes, so do the tears in mine. As a viewer, I’m sucked in as I feel she is singing just to me, not afraid of telling me her darkest secrets.
Even still, her clothing and atmosphere of the video are not the main focus. The heart and soul of the song is told by looking in Nettles’ face and her face alone. We have all been hurt, we’ve all cried, we’ve all hit rock bottom at some point in a relationship. In her case, she sings of being “the other woman” and tired of the pain her situation brings. Even if we haven’t experienced this same circumstance, we can all understand the hurting, no matter which side we’ve sat on.
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betty loren says:
I agree with the way Jennifer feels about the video’s. however she has a wonderful talent and doesn’t need all to extras to make her even better. Jennifer is right up there with Reba with her southern charm and class. maybe Reba should have gotten Jennifer Nettles to do a Duet with her. If you didn’t know, one would think the Sugerland and Bon Jovi has been singing for years together.
Stephanie Miller says:
I agree also..I am a huge Sugarland fan and Jennifer Nettles is a natural beauty…she does not need all the fancy things….she is pure and simple raw talent, right with the likes of Reba as stated by Betty above
Ham says:
The heartfelt honesty of the song is completely captured by Jeniifer’s performance. I have never seen another artist with such a powerful delivery. Total awe is not too strong of a description for my response. God Bless Jennifer for bringing such integrity to the country video scene.
Jez says:
I would love to see this song rocket to the number one slot and show country music big wigs what it is we all really want from music. True talent. Its an amazing song and video with amazing artistry and oodles of talent.
Ldiva says:
I love this video and i defintely agree with the author of this blog that the simplistic way Jennifer conveys the emotion of this song is amazing. I already loved Sugarland before this and this video makes me think even more highly of them.
Lisa says:
Kudos to Sugarland for having the vision and courage to portray this beautiful song in such a raw and moving video. I defy anyone to watch this video and not get choked up - my eyes still well up with each viewing. That’s powerful stuff. And to the author of this blog - well stated!
KD says:
This is GREAT! I wish other acts would follow their lead. I don’t watch videos anymore due to what appears to be advertising for sex.
Blimpie says:
Heartbreakingly beautiful. Great stuff, Sugarland!
JTURNER says:
WHAT A POWERFUL VIDEO. THE SIMPLICITY OF IT MAKES IT EVEN MORE INTERESTING THE VIEWER IS DRAWN TO JENNIFER FROM THE OPENING LINE AND HOLDS YOU THROUGH OUT BECAUSE OF THE SONG SO MANY VIDEOS LOOSE THERE MEANING BECAUSE THEY TRY AND DO TO MUCH TO “ENTERTAIN’ US IF YOU CAN’T WATCH THIS AND BE ENTERTAINED YOUR NOT A FEELING PERSON THANKS WHITNEY YOU ROCK EM GIRL
AMARYLIS says:
JUST SAW SUGARLANDS STAY’VERY POWERFULL!!!!!!!23/9/07
Joan says:
Jennifer you’re the best, keep entertaining us with such great videos
Robin says:
I have never been so captivated by a video. Maybe obsessed is a better word. The simplicity, raw emotion and beauty of it really reached deep inside me. Jennifer and Kristian made me feel like I was a part of this song. Of course Jennifer’s expressions are amazing, as well as her voice (I just love how she never misses a note), but I also love Kristian’s expressions-he is feeling every word and emotion, too.
I wish SugarLand complete contentment with their lives, and much success professionally!
B.W. LaRoy says:
Now that’s country. B.W. LaRoy
Linda Bullock says:
Let me just say that this video is captivating. (I.E.-to influence and dominate with some special charm, art, or trait and with an irresistible appeal.} This video stays with you long after the song is over. It will replay in your mind everytime `Stay’ is heard. That is the beauty of Jennifer’s talent. It is as if she reaches deep within herself to bring out this amazing God given talent she has and through song allows you to connect with her.
I had the priviledge of meeting Jennifer and Kristian last year and they are really awesome people. Very respectful and appreciative of their fans…. They are reaping their just rewards!
bballmom says:
Sugarland has CHANGED country music. Each song is unique and keeps you wondering…”What’s next”? Stay is a song you will never forget. It is raw, deep, and tender all wrapped up.. I am glad country music found Jennifer.
sunkie says:
Jennifer has struck a chord in me, one that runs deep and regretfully a side that I hadn’t thought about for selfish reasons. I feel her pain and her sorrow not only from her expressions, but from her heart through her singing. Being on the other side of the coin, I know that I have hurt others by my actions in a relationship. One sometimes doesn’t think of how the pain can turn such hurt to cause such raw emotions. To watch Jennifer sing this song about a love gone to another brings my own actions from the past back to me. By simply reflecting on my actions and how the hurt can cut so deeply I realize that life is so very fragile and one must guard against hurting others emotionally. Whitney is right on target when she states that many of us have been in this situation and the pain is real. Simply by viewing the video and reading Whitney’s interperation of the song has taught me a life lesson. What a wonderful medium that CMT now offers for people to view their own lives and to reflect on how music influences others lives.
Kate says:
I definitely am not a huge Sugarland fan, however, I really enjoy this song and video. I think it’s something everyone can relate to in one way or another. Thanks for bringing your point of view to us!
Ann says:
The lyric of this song is poor. It still needs some rewrites. Jennifer seems to be faking her tears and sadness. What a joke!
Dawn says:
I’m having an affair with a married man who claims to love me with all his heart and wants to leave his wife, but is supposedly scared to make the move. My original song to him is “You Had Me From Hello” by Kenny Chesney, but after hearing this song by Sugarland, I’m ready to tell my man to listen to this song, that this is exactly how I feel after 2+ years off and on with him! This song and watching the video is giving me the strength to eventually break it off for good!
billie says:
I am so moved by this video and song. Jennifer is so brave to show her true emotions to all of us and not stop and redo it. It makes it seem ok to let our true feelings show instead of canned ones. Great Job!!! I hope you are ruly blessed and happy.
Rhonda says:
Dawn, Please end your affair with the married man. This song brings back so many emotions with me, and when I read your post I felt anger well up inside of me. I was cheated on by my husband and I have a strong replusion of anyone knowingly in an adulterous affair. I know people get into situations that they didn’t mean to start - but after more than 2 years, you must realize that he is not going to leave her and you are just tormenting yourself and his wife (believe me, she knows). Do the right thing and end it - use the inspiration from this song.
DJersey! says:
Ann, you’re comments should be left off the board. I don’t see the need for people to post such rediculous statements. What more could you ask for in the lyrics? What more could you ask for as far as emotions go in a video? Fake tears? Give me a break.
It’s a beautifully written song in my book and the video is sad, emotionally raw and breathtaking. They both do a wonderful job.
Shellie says:
I love the song and video. You can feel and see the heartfelt emotions she puts off even if she never lived it. I attended one of their concerts and it rocked. She and Christian truly are one of country’s greatest. They prove the glitz and glam are not always needed to get any point across. Keep up the good work and May God Bless!
Kat says:
I was watching this video after my bestfriend told me she was moving away and me knowing jennifer just got divorced and seeing her have to sing a song likt stay about a man cheating on his woman and her rising above and getting redemtion as she put so great and me seeing jennifer crying and kristian trying not to, i started to cry and felt better knowing everyone has their problems and i am not alone in the world
lois king says:
jennifer you are woundful i love all the songs you sing
i just like to meet you sometime i have a little girl
named leann i am your biggest fan love always lois
Paula Haynes says:
Very moving!
Cassandra says:
Oh my goodness. What a beautiful song and video. Videos today try to be too flashy. But this one, this one hits home and brings out emotions in me that have long been gone. Truly awesome.
danielle says:
this was my favorite song off the cd from the VERY begining! I’m glad the video does it true justice!
Shocked and Confused says:
I really don’t understand how sugarland thought it was a good idea to release a song of this nature. Many families are ruined by affairs every year. Fortunately my family made it through it. My mom and dad had a very rough time when I was in high school. Which was very hard for me beings that I am a hard core daddy’s girl. My family has had about four years to recover from this event and when I heard this song I still cried. I cried because “the other woman” should not be glorified. She aided in ruining vows that meant the world to two people at one time. Those vows state to honor and be faithful till death. By being the other woman in an affair you know that you’re going to be always on the back burner and you are going to be left a ring of a phone. Why should this hurt her? Being the other woman is not something to glorify, it’s something to be shameful of. I’m not saying the man has nothing to do with this but obviously the woman should know that there are more important women in the man’s life than his mistress. Like his wife, daughters, and mother. All I’m trying to say is this song is glorifying the wrong person in a love triangle. Try singing a song about the woman who knows her lover is cheating but still makes dinner every night, takes care of the children, and gives him a kiss when he comes home even if she knows that the other woman was the last one to kiss those lips. That woman is the one to glorify. She keeps her family together and never lets anyone know how she feels inside.
Cat says:
Thank you Sugarland -this song is beautiful and captures the deep emotion and inherent conflict of this type of love affair. There are even greeting cards called the Secret Lover Collection that express these emotions. Sugarland’s video does an incredible job expressing this very real and intense relationship.
Dawn says:
Sorry “Shocked and Confused”, but any woman who stays with her husband KNOWING he’s been cheating on her is a fool!! The trust is totally gone and it’s very hard to try to “forgive and forget”!! Been there and finally filed for divorce!!
tag says:
this song&viedo is way beyond moving iam a 46 yr. old pure redneck man very good at holding back emotions. gladly noone was around the first time i saw it, cause i totally couldnot help but shed atear.Jennifer you are amazing, I dident just hear the song,I felt it.this to me is real music that is seldom herd these days simply beautiful not clutterd by abig band sound, a flattop and a great singer is a combo that just cant be beat yall naild this one,we georgians are really proud of yall!!!
Bubba says:
I just wonder where she had to “go” to get in the mind set to give such a strong video presence. I loved Jennifer’s voice before I ever saw her picture. Jennifer is one sexy, pretty lady. I liked Sugarland from the beginning. Not since Reba’s “ I Think His Name Was John” have I been moved with a first viewing song / video. This video has made the song so much more powerful then just listening to it on the iPod, radio, CD. You really “Feel” the pain. Even being a big old Redneck, like me, it hit close to home. I think most of us have lived through a situation like Jennifer is expressing in the video. Heck it was so believable that I just wanted to hug & comfort her. Good music is not just heard but felt. “Diary” from the group Bread Had a twist. So many good songs do. They are real life events that we all can be caught up with. I love my music. raised on Country lived through the good Rock & Roll Years. 60s - 70s. I like the instruments and the strength in a good voice woven into good lyrics. Sugarland has all that and more. GOD has blessed them with the talent they developed with hard work and I hope they know that.
The fact is…. Dawn, ( September 28th, 2007 at 8:31 am) there are no winners with “Affairs” If you can lure a lover away from their spouse, what is to say the person cannot not be taken from you. I’m not here to stone you but you have to know keep him or lose him you will not win either way. You can not ever really trust someone that has been unfaithful. Been there done that.
Mark J says:
For Shocked and Confused: Please don’t take this the wrong way, but is this the first country song you ever listened to? I don’t understand how you can be so surprised at a country song about an affair … this is one of the core issues of country songs. Real emotions and situations and the stuff of real life. If the performance in this song makes you cry, then Jennifer is doing her job - and damn well I might add.
And I don’t think the other woman is being glorified either. We are simply seeing the other side of the spectrum. No one can help who they fall in love with. This woman is hurting as much - or maybe more - than the woman at home. It’s that realization at the end that lets us know this particular other woman is not the vindictive homewrecker but rather a sensible lady who happened to fall for the wrong guy and finally had to let him go, much as it hurt her too.
Personally, I loved this song as soon as I got the Enjoy the Ride CD during my infatuation with ‘Want To’ and now that I am over my love affair with that song, my new trophy song on the album continues to be ‘Stay’. I am ecstatic they released this song as a single and even more stoked that Jennifer did it justice in video. But I can’t say I’m surprised - I knew she was a superstar when she hit the scene in 2004 and time has only verified my assumption.
Jerry says:
WOW! Jennifer has done an awesome job writing this one. Emotion like that only comes from the heart. I have loved Sugarland since the first time I heard Baby Girl. There aren’t many groups I would sit through a downpour at an outdoor venue to see, but I did it for Sugarland. Now as a duet the music seems to be better. When you love what you do for a living, it can’t get any better. And Sugarland seems to love what they are doing. Keep it up guys, you’re great.
christyh says:
I JUST WANTED TO SAY THAT THE SONG IS AWESOME THE RAW EMOTION IS SO REAL. I HAVE NEVER BEEN THE OTHER WOMEN BUT TRY TO LOOK AT IT BOTH WAYS. ITS LIFE ITS REAL AND SOMEONE IS ALWAYS HURT EVERYONE WANTS TO POINT FINGERS AND BLAME BUT YOU CANT HELP WHO YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH. SO HEAR IS A SHORT POEM . NEVER LEAVE THE ON YOU LOVE
FOR THE ONE YOU LIKE
CAUSE THE ONE YOU LIKE WILL
WILL LEAVE YOU FOR THE ONE THEY LOVE.
been there says:
I loved this song from the very first time it played on the radio where I live. And I cried in the car. I got online to cmt and had to find the video. And I cried when I saw the video, it is so real. Sugarland couldn’t have done it any better. The video is simple, you don’t need all the extras in the videos to feel the meaning of the song. She looked so naturally beautiful in the video. These things happen every day of the week. I have been the wife at home waiting. Begging my husband not to go. And I felt her words. I gave him my best and I didn’t understand why she was getting the best of him. You eventually have to stand up for yourself. Because it is not fair to live like that. The woman in the song rises above it. It is very moving even though she loves him, she lets him go in the end. My husband and I are half way through our divorce and I listen to this song every day. It gives my strength.
grafxgal says:
I love this video… Jennifer is a true beauty. She should win an Oscar for this honest, heartfelt portrayal of the other woman. I feel her emotion and pain. I’ve been there. I know this pain first hand, and the first time I heard the song I thought she’d read my mind and discovered my innermost thoughts and hurts over a man I love. This simple video says more than those with all the glam and glitz. Kudos, Sugarland!!
dianeL Markland says:
sugarland to the both of you you all do a GREAT JOB on keeping your country FANS very HAPPY and satisfied and my Husband really enjoyed the song and video on Stay…anyway WE REALLY enjoy your music because I have two of your CD,s and I am going to keep on listening to your music, has alot of feeling and TRUE Meaning in your music and you all do a great job…take careand may GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!!! signed the Marklands…
dianeL Markland says:
WE Enjoy your music and you have a beautiful voice in all of your music…keep up the good work and we will keep on listeing to your music too.. signed Diane and Earl your country music fans !!!!
HUMBERTO says:
since i watched that video it touched me deep inside cause i been in that situation of being the other even do that woman loves me she can’t leave her home because of her 2 lovely daughters. i met them and they know me but they don’t know that i used to be the other. i love this woman as well but it has come to an end where i can’t take it any more. i know that her relathionsip is really bad. but, like this songs says she can’t give me any more at this moment and probably never until she stops being afraid of what her husbands actions can’t be. we let go this relationship but she knows i’ll always be there for her in a future but just to help her if she needs. now is hard to me to start all over again because we spent so much time and love together, we used to be almost like husband and wife few days a week se would stay with me. it was love i know and i still feel it but now it is gone. also when i listen to gart’s new song
(more than a memory) it reminds me strongly about her. i got to keep movin but i need her so much. she needs me too, because she still calls me. i don’t answer i know she will just say she is sorry and that she loves me and it won’t help any one at all. one day i hope the sun will be brighter for me and i will be strong and open for love again. THANKS JENNIFER (SUGARLAND) FOR ALL YOUR WORK BECAUSE IT REALLY TRANSMITS THROUGH THE SCREEN AND MAKES US FEEL HAPPY, LONELY, AND LOVELY. i love country music.
djenkins says:
This video is absolutely fantastic. Jennifer is so convincing in this video that I tried to find the news about her “relationship gone wrong”. I was happy to find no such news. I too wonder where she had to “go” to inspire such realism in her delivery in the video. It just doesn’t get any better than this!
Rose says:
Humberto: I truly enjoyed reading all the comments, but yours touched me deep. It’s rare to hear from the “other man”. I pray you will find true love and happiness in your future.
KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK, SUGARLAND. I love this video. I have been on both sides of the coin. Cheated on by my ex-husband and then falling in love years later with a married man (no, you can’t help who you fall in love with and I didn’t go looking!) I TRULY UNDERSTAND. Jennifer really nailed it because eveything she says she is feeling is how it is.
CF says:
WOW. Seriously. I have never heard the song, so seeing the video first was such an experience. Usually, I admit, I don’t really care for Sugarland and can’t take Jennifer Nettles’ voice, but this one…she puts a lot of emotion into her vocal delivery and her performance on screen…it’s just amazing and I applaud her and the makers of the video: very well done. Good song.
Janet says:
Hate to be the wet blanket here, but frankly I cannot stand this song. I think the melody is incredibly boring, the content pushes women back at least 50 years and I guess I don’t feel sorry for anyone who CHOOSES to have an affair with a married person. Are there any other logical people out there who agree with me?? I just think this song is an affront to all women.
anabel50 says:
oh my God!!!!!!!! i cried when i saw and heard this beautiful song. jennifer and kristen have done an phenominal job with this song as they have with all the songs they have ever done. she’s beautiful, he’s fine and they truly seem to enjoy making music together and i hope they never stop! they have my vote for cma duo now and for many years to come if not always. i absolutely love you guys and have from day 1.
mike says:
I just recently divorced and even though my wife had an affair after 17 years of marriage when jennifer was singing I put myself in her place as a man and the phone calls were from another man and not a woman. I begged her to stay and it just didnt work. Now a year and half later I have picked my self up and moved on. The song is great and it has real emotion and thats how it is when this happens. Good job jennifer and kristian! probably one of the best songs out there today!
Jim McPeak says:
Sugarland is the best. I love Jennifer, when she sings I stop and listen. The song is just awesome and with so much emotion. I enjoy each and everysong they have done but I really feel this is there best. Keep up the awesome job and I hope someday I can meet her and tell her face to face how her song (Stay) meant so much to me.
BigMac
donnaj says:
Sugarland you are awesome.Jennifer your voice I love and all your songs are great,stay is so raw an true heart felt emotions.keep up the good work can’t wait to see what the next cd brings.If you love some one sometime ya gotta set it free
grafxgal says:
To Janet who thinks this song is an affront to all women. It seems that you “think” more than you “feel”. You don’t know the intricacies of every situation and shouldn’t assume that all are the stereotypical “affair”. One can’t always help with whom they are in love. You can deny it, you can push it aside, but the love is still real. I think the fact that this song has obviously touched so many simply means this situation is more common than may be evident. It’s just not talked about. It’s just a song… it’s just about one side of the “story” that usually isn’t talked about. That’s all it is.
Christine says:
Everyone is talking about how the song is about “the other woman.” Has anyone thought that the song could be from both points of view - the mistress AND the wife? There’s a point in the song where she sings “It’s too much pain to have to bear, To love a man you have to share” after that, she talks about how she can’t take it any longer and she knows what she has to do. At the end of the song, she sings, “When she begs you not to go, There is one thing you should know, I don’t have to live this way.” Seems to me like the song is written in third person, an observer looking at both sides of the situation. I give her credit for writing such a touching song and love the video.
Seth says:
This song is about her husband. Their divorce was finalized in March and, from what I have read, he was not happy with her touring and he became unfaithful. After acquiring that information, I think she did sing it from both sides…but she is the woman who is being cheated on. Great song…love Sugarland…love Jennifer Nettles.
billie says:
Jennifer Nettles allowing herself to show her vulnerability made this song and video one we all can identify with on different levels. I am glad she did not redo the video and ake out he true feelings and tears. What a team they make. We say them on Oct. 28th in Los Angeles for the CMT Tour with Little big Town and Jake Owens. It was a stellar performance by all of the. WHAT A NIGHT!!!!!
Sobe says:
The world is ready for Jennifer Nettles! I remember the first time I saw Jennifer perform. I was invited by a friend to see this awesome band with a phenomenal front woman. Heard that before. I get a drink, come in from the bar and the next song she sang was Remain. I was captivated by the raw emotion she let us all see. Nothing fake about it. I told her that night she had the fire on stage of a young Jon Bon Jovi. I had no idea where that would end up. The first time I saw her sing Stay, she was sitting on a bar stool playing acoustic guitar in front of maybe 40 people, and it was amazing. I am so happy for her sucess, but miss those old times. This video captures Jenn & Kristian so well. Such gracious people.
AT says:
When I heard this song playing for the 1st time, It just blew me away, how I was in a marriage like that, but no more. Its a true song for everybody to understand about life & happiness. I saw the video and it was powerful it touched my heart. Jennifer is a very outstanding strong women. She sings so honesty & caring in her music. I loved her video. I would like to see her in consert soon one day. I can’t wait for her next CD.
Pat says:
I have read this entire string of comments and have to say I agree with most. They do a great Job, they have touched emotions on both sides and that is great. For those you stated about glorifing this woman or downing the situation has probably never been there. They have never been n the situation at hand and you don’t even know the circumstances of the situation. You should not speak down to feel as though you are better, your not! You have just never been there. I am not speaking for all but from someone that has been on both sides of this song , I feel I have a say. Jennifer is right on in the lyrics…she touched on every emotion and feeling there was sad, lonely, mad not good enough etc….my hat is off to her and Khristian. As for being the one who was cheated on, there was obviously not enough in the relationship to keep us together…love conquers all!!! yea there is more then just love but it is a very big part of it, you can love someone and then you are in love with them,,,big difference. I was seeing someone for 8 years, so much in the way that kept us apart and as those things went away or worked out he could leave, it is not always about deception….we are now married for 3 years and everything worked out good so far. Not all relationships affairs should be just because the person cheating isnot happy and need some other void filled….while I’ll get off my soap box, I just feel that before people say or act upon a song or anything they should really think about all sides….as for the daughter that wrote my hat is off to you but you should also stop and think, there had to a problem in this marriage to begin with..no excuse mind you but you need to explore everything…thanks everyone for supporting all the opinions here and bravo to a great song and video!!!
Priscilla says:
OMG…I’m so thankful for this song…and now even more so for the video. I was a big fan of the song but never watched the video for some reason. Now that I did, I can’t help but watch it over and over and over…she’s so real and it touches my heart…she understands. She has shed light to the circumstances behind what the naked eyes of society tend to see: the “OW” as a homewrecking, heartless whore…which 9 times out of 10 is not true. Nobody would understand but now maybe this will keep those judgmental ignorant mouths shut when they all know how heartbreaking it really is to have to wait “a million years” for the next time you can be in the arms of a man you trust and love…whose flaw is the fact that he’s tied to another woman.
DAWN B says:
JENNIFER HAS AN AMAZING VOICE. I LIKE THE SONG MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME AND TO HEAR HER SING THIS SONG GAVE ME SOME GRATIFACATION TO KNOW THAT THE OTHER WOMEN WAS ALMOST AS HURT AS I WAS. THAT IN SOME WAY HAS MADE ME FEEL SOMEWHAT BETTER AND YOU CAN GET BACK THE LOVE AND THE TRUST IT JUST TAKES ALOT OF HARD WORK THAT YOU BOTH HAVE TO BE WILLING TO DO.WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 20 YEARS WE ARE HAPPIER THEN EVER.JUST REMEMBER ALL YOU LADIES THAT ARE SEEING A MARRIED MAN THEY MARRIED US FOR SOME REASON AND WHEN THEY REMEMBER WHY THEY WILL LEAVE YOU NOT US.
Ed Longo, Warrenton VA says:
The best song that I have every heard! It makes this man think about many things. Many Thanks!!
Margo says:
While the video is a pleasant relief from “skin and sex appeal”, the lyrics of the song “Stay” are beneath you. The message of “begging a married man to stay with you” no matter how sad and realistic they are, is not something you should be promoting to your female audience no matter what age they are. I hope you follow it up with a song about kicking his sorry ass to the curb for being a weak and pathetic coward to start a relationship with another woman while he is still married and how no woman should ever settle for having to “share” a man or “cry” when a phone call comes from home. You are better than that and so are all of your female fans. No woman should have to beg, cry, or be second in a man’s life for any reason. Today’s women have enough to worry about with preconceived notions of what we are supposed to look like let alone allowing yourself to be in a position of “the other woman.” We deserve better. I change the station when that song comes on because as much as I love your voice, those words don’t sit well with me no matter where they are coming from. You sit in a position of inspiration and influence, I suggest you use it wisely.
Michele says:
What an amazing song,
From what I understand Jennifer wrote this years ago, in sort of response to Reba’s “Who’s ever in New England”. Reba’s being the wife speaking and “Stay” being the other womans point of view
Delana says:
With the divorce of Jennifer and her husband in March it makes you wonder how she was able to do this song at all in public. But I am sure by all the posts it has helped men or women on both sides get the courage to get through it and to be stronger because of it. God Bless Jennifer for doing and writing this song for it may stop someone from starting something they know is wrong and to really see the pain it can cause……
right on! says:
All I would like to say although everyone makes really good points is that If more of the “other women” or men for that matter would feel that way, I do believe divorce rates would not be out of this world. No matter how bad things are ever, cheating is not the answer, we as being the one vested should have the right to not be hurt in such a horrible way, if the man or woman wants relations with someone else, then they need to end the relationship they are already in before committing to someone else, that is the least that we deserve. I have been divorced for 4 yrs now, and guess what, “the other woman” yes, she won him, but after 2 years they are no longer together either, and its on to the next.
Wanda says:
i think this is a very touching song. I Love It. It really touches your heart. I have been in both situations and it really hit home. A very heartfelt song.
just a girl says:
I couln’t have been more touched by this song.. I first heard it the same night I broke off a year long relationship with a man that was not married ,but did have a girlfriend. I feel like it spoke strait to me I was FINALLY “up off my knees” and knowing that I didnt have to live that way… as far as cheating goes I despise it and everyone involved because I’ve been dealing with my dads affairs for years and I know how it tore my family apart ..but now I see the other side even though I fell for him when I didnt know about any other woman I had such strong feelings for him when I finally did find out that I kept seeing him because I couldn’t find strength in me to let go … The song is so right noone should live that way it hurts far too badly for everyone involved even the “other woman” . I think if I had heard this song earlier I would have ended the relationship a long long time ago it’s just so touching and true..
Marta Linch says:
While I was very moved by the lyrics of “Stay” – I find it impossible to sympathize with the “other woman”. The wife GIVES her best then “she” gets the best of him. The wife gets the marital headaches, money disputes, and dirty underwear on the floor…”she” gets the best of him because “she” only knows Mr. Nice Guy. “She” sees only his best side. The call from home is where he belongs. If “she” is down on her knees begging him to stay…she chose to live that way – while the wife has most likely begged him to stay at some point, even through his lies and deceit.
Rob says:
Here is a thought? Maybe this song is about a military member going away to war and his affaire is with Lady Liberty herself. It fits.
Gregory Bailey says:
When did this song release to radio I think it is a very smooth and well done song.
Gregory Bailey says:
Your album is very well prepared and worked so hard ov the first album and this one and the name ”Enjoy the Ride” makes the album very interesting and continue on with the hard work and can’t stop listening to your music.
Danielle says:
I am a huge yankee fan of Sugarland, in fact so yankee that Red Bank, NJ used to be a hometown for me. You are right about how well meshed Jennifer nettles and Bon Jovi were. It leads me to speculate on the inspiration for “Stay” though-hey whatever brings on a great song. Kristian, Jennifer keep up the amazing work-man oh man what pipes God has given you.
Tammy says:
Love the song and video. Sugarland is wonderful.
Keeley says:
Jennifer Nettles is absolutely amazing. She has such pure, raw talent that its almost scary, but in a good way! She has such a distinct voice, unlike anyone else in country music, that is truly seen and felt in this song. I love Sugarland, especially Jennifer. It takes a special, strong woman to sing a song like this and a real man to play it with her. Sugarland will go into unchartered places with their music and will continue to change country music is inconceivable ways.
Psyche Perry says:
I admire Sugarland much. But was upset by this new song “Stay”. It is beautiful until the end. And give all my friends who mock country music fuel. Women should be portryed as vunerable as we all are(and men too), however, no self respecting woman should grovel and beg a man to “stay”. Why would any woman want ta mann who doesn’t want her? That is inviting a life of misery. If the end of the song whold have reflected, I’ve given you one chance too many, now ” I can’t stay”. She should have takien the self respecting high road and left him. This song’s message could have been as beatiful as it sounds but with a lesson that leaves woman with their dignity intact. I think you should cut a second version with a positive message to young women that they do not deserve to be abused.
Otherwise, YOU ROCK!
Psyche Perry
Sherri says:
Have you listened carefully to the end of the song? she talks about being tired of being the “other” woman and tells her “man” he can stay with the wife. So she is finally learning the lesson and kicks him out. Just saw her sing it last night at a concert in NYC and she blew the whole crowd away. Awesome!
Kissa says:
I heard “Stay” while driving to work and had to sit in my car for a couple minutes before going in to hide that I had been crying…what an emotionally raw song. After telling a friend about how moving the song was, she informed me of the video being even more emotional. I jumped on the Sugarland website right away and there I was, with tears flowing, heart pounding, unable to take my eyes off the screen…I have never been so touched by a song and video. Thank you for not glitzing this up Sugarland, you couldn’t have done any better!!
J.W. says:
This song is a killer. It makes me cry everytime I hear it. I understand what shes going through and it makes me feel inside that i’m the one who it happened to because this song really gets me.
I love it!
Music video is great.
Tom N,J, says:
To All Who Speculate,
When I first heard Jennifer sing Baby Girl with Sugarland I was taken in by her powerful vocals and twang, I researched her and found she had been performing for 10 or more years and had 2 previous bands. The last was the Jennifer Nettle’s Band. I went to her web site bought her CD Acoustic Evening with Jennifer Nettle’s. On that Cd she sings Stay, Since this was live she clearly states before she sings it that she was listing to the radio and heard Reba sing Who’s Ever In New England and this prompted her to write the song from the other womans perspective. This is not a recent song but years old nor does it have anything to do with Bon Jovi or her recent divorce, although that experiance could add to the emotion .
Patty says:
Loved the video and the song. I cry everytime I see it. I would love to see the song at #1.
Sandra says:
While Jennifer has a beautiful voice and presents this song “Stay” beautifully. And I agree that Sugarland is a great band that brings alot to the country scene. You have to admit that this is just another cheating song if you listen to the lyrics. Come on she is asking a married man to stay with her and not go home to his wife, please you get mixed up with a married man or woman and you are the booty call no matter how much you think you put into the relationship. You knew going in you were the sex partner and someone else is his or her life partner.
Rosebud says:
Wow! First time I saw this video I too broke down crying, not because I was the other woman, But because of the pain you see in her eyes and you feel your heart breaking for her. Wow totally awesome. Responding to Sandras comment in regards to “asking a married man to stay”!! She starts with expressing her need and desire for their relationship to survive for him to stay but as time goes on she realizes she is better than that and deserves more than what he can give her, himself 100% not having to share him. So she tells him the next time he wants to leave the other womans bed to just stay there, nowhere does she say his wife. Besides many woman are drawn into a relationship never knowing there is another woman and they fall head over heels in love. No matter what, until you are in that situation its much more than the sex that keeps you there. Its true blue LOVE!
Reeny says:
What an emotional song!!! Loved and felt every word and note in this beautiful song. If your open minded you can feel and begin to see all sides to this song from everyone’s point of view. Beautiful job Sugarland!!!!!!! Keep bring it to us:)WELL DONE!!!!
Brandy Hampton says:
I think this song is beautiful, and I think Jennifer Nettles’ put on an amazing heartfelt performance, but I believe that it would have made a better duet. Some of the lines sound like they are coming from a wife, not a girlfriend. None the less… I LOVE THIS SONG
Joyce says:
This song really hit home for me, I’m in that situation. I have been with the same man for the past two years and he is just now starting the divorce. I had him listen to this song and he finally realized how much it hurts me. The emotion put into the video and song is exactly how I have felt. Jennifer was so sincere it made me cry. This song means a lot to me. Sugarland did a remarkable job on this song.
Darren says:
So , about 3 weeks ago, My 12 yr old daughter and I watched a focus show on CMT about Jennifer Nettles..while my daughter was playing a game on the computer, I was clicking the channels and then ended back up CMT when I was told that Jennifer Nettles new video was coming up, so I starting watching it. First I thought, another sappy country song, whereas I am interested mostly in country rock..I was completely attentive to the tears which were soaking her face..My daughter turned away from the computer when I asked her to look at the video..she was just as amazed as I was. We both felt like she was in the room with us , telling us about her troubled life and I actually grabbed the kleenex box to pass to Jennifer, actually it was for me. Thats right Jennifer, you bought tears to my eyes with this video, because you touched my manly heart with your warmth and desparateness of this video. My daughter kept asking me, is she really crying?
Which I replied, she had ever reason too. When we asked mom if she ever heard of it, she said she wasn’t a fan of Jennifer Nettles, until she heard “STAY”, and after she heard it, she replied, ‘I’ll give her that one”, which was her way of saying, WOW!
So Jennifer, this is truly one your best and I hope that everyone in the world hears it and especially gets to see the video , because as they say, a picture is worth a thousand words..
Thank you Jennifer and Kristian…A job very well done!!
Darren
Nicole says:
Well I have never been a very big country music fan and i had never even ever heard of Sugarland until the CMA’s were on a few weeks ago. I turned on the channel and there was Jennifer and Kristian doing this song and I was completely entranced by Jennifer’s voice and delivery of the song, I couldn’t turn the channel. I quickly hit record on the DVR that is how moved I was by this song. I can relate to the lyrics so well I felt like she was singing to me. I went out the next day and bought the album!! Sugarland, you definitely have the respect and admiration of a “non-country music fan”. I have converted!
Steven says:
This is pitiful
Dawn says:
Posted: September 28th, 2007 at 8:31 am
I’m having an affair with a married man who claims to love me with all his heart and wants to leave his wife, but is supposedly scared to make the move. My original song to him is “You Had Me From Hello” by Kenny Chesney, but after hearing this song by Sugarland, I’m ready to tell my man to listen to this song, that this is exactly how I feel after 2+ years off and on with him! This song and watching the video is giving me the strength to eventually break it off for good!
Why would you hurt this mans wife. And in a later post you say youve been there and filed for divorce, now your being the other woman in another mans life when you left your husband becaue he had another woman. You sound like trailor park trash.
I agree with this 100%
Shocked and Confused says:
Posted: October 9th, 2007 at 9:00 pm
I really don’t understand how sugarland thought it was a good idea to release a song of this nature. Many families are ruined by affairs every year. Fortunately my family made it through it. My mom and dad had a very rough time when I was in high school. Which was very hard for me beings that I am a hard core daddy’s girl. My family has had about four years to recover from this event and when I heard this song I still cried. I cried because “the other woman” should not be glorified. She aided in ruining vows that meant the world to two people at one time. Those vows state to honor and be faithful till death. By being the other woman in an affair you know that you’re going to be always on the back burner and you are going to be left a ring of a phone. Why should this hurt her? Being the other woman is not something to glorify, it’s something to be shameful of. I’m not saying the man has nothing to do with this but obviously the woman should know that there are more important women in the man’s life than his mistress. Like his wife, daughters, and mother. All I’m trying to say is this song is glorifying the wrong person in a love triangle. Try singing a song about the woman who knows her lover is cheating but still makes dinner every night, takes care of the children, and gives him a kiss when he comes home even if she knows that the other woman was the last one to kiss those lips. That woman is the one to glorify. She keeps her family together and never lets anyone know how she feels inside.
Why should we feel sorry for the “other woman” for ruining peoples lives? I can’t believe that people are really praising this song. I guess it just shows where our world is headed. I actually used to listen to it, but I always caught the song after the part that says “its just another call from home, youll get it and be gone and i’ll be crying” When I heard those lyrics for the first time I said “My goodness shes the other woman and wants him to leave his wife.” Now if I hear that first chord from the guitar I change the channel on the tv and in my truck. Poor song in my opinion, yeah raw emotion and what not, sure, but the song is poor , the whole situation it presents is pitiful. I lost a lot of respect for Sugarland and they were just starting to rank high on my list of bands I like. Now they are way down low. BOOOOO to Sugarland for relasing this garbage.
Rachel says:
Alright Steven, that is the last straw. Just because you don’t believe in this stuff and dont think that it should be praised does not mean that you have the right to trash Sugarland for it. I’m not a believer in this myself, but I don’t trash Jen and Kris for it. I happen to be a huge Sugarland fan. I am very defensive, so maybe you should think before you speak buddy!
Bonnie says:
This is a beautiful song and well done.I can relate to it very well.I cry along with her every time i see it.Loving someone you have to share isn’t easy.keep up the good work sugarland.
Steven says:
Rachel, don’t ever call me buddy again!! What I posted was my opinion, I didn’t even mention your name so whatever you have to say now is your business and what I said was my business. If you can’t stand someone speaking the truth and talking about a band you like then maybe you should just not come on here, or better yet, maybe you should stay in the house and be a hermit becasue everyone will not have the same opinion as you in this life. So again, BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO to Sugarland for releasing this garbage. Poor Poor Poor.
Any why do you believe in ruining a marriage, and a family? Would you like it if there was another woman in your mans life?? and if there has been did you like it??? GO ahead and tell me its just a song, but if you support this song then you support cheating and being the other woman.
The other woman should not be felt sorry for because she knows hes married and if she wants to be in a relationship then she should find someone that isn’t married. How hard is it?? Oh but its just a song
HAPPY THANKSGIVING
Real Hot Mom says:
Real Hot Mom…
I have done anything like that, i will give it a shot because i have nothing to loose Sammy….
don lewis says:
WOW!! I wish I had written that! IF I had I don’t know of anyone other than Jennifer who could have delivered it with that kind of intense power. As it’s been said some times a little is too much not in this! A little guitar from Kristian was just right! Great work all the way around! WOW!! They hit this one out of the park! Congrats!
Don Lewis
Julie says:
Beautifully done and with such raw emotion!!
Rhonda says:
I saw Jennifer sing this on the CMT’S and have relived this song over and over in my mind..I lived this song for two years with a man and finally found the courage to tell him to “STAY” I am finally at peace with myself and now he is her problem.. Jennifer thank you for bring such heartfelt emotion to this song for me and many other woman.Thank you for singing this from the heart!
Michelle says:
This song is not ness about a married couple and the “other” woman.
This song hits close to home with me.. I was in a relationship with a guy whom I’ve been in love with for a long time. We broke up for personal reasons. We’ve stayed somewhat close, while he ended up going back to an ex. I told him it wouldnt work out with them.. she “couldnt love him like I could”.. he found out that that in fact was the truth. and he came back to me.. well, needless to say.. the past year.. he has been going back and forth between the two of us. Say’s he’s confused…I have FINALLY realized that this is ridiculous now..and I am getting up from being on my knee’s begging him not to go back to her every time she cries.. So, this time when he realizes YET AGAIN that she ISNT the one.. it’s gonna be too late.. I’ve shut that door.
SO.. this song is AMAMZING.. I feel like I wrote it! Great Job!
Janet says:
gRAFxgAL: I don’t care how “intricate” the situation. Unless a married person has outright lied about being single, then the “other” woman or man has a decision to make: take up with the married person or not. The song tries to tug at our heart strings with the other woman begging someone else’s man to stay with her. Hello, that is an immoral situation, yet we’re all supposed to get sappy over this song. It’s just a song, that’s true, and one that I turn down as soon as I hear it play…besides, I find the melody crushingly dull.
Janet says:
Rachel: The last time I checked, this was a FREE country where it is acceptable to openly express opinions.
I agree with Steven. To further add: No intelligent person (married or not) who has ever been cheated on/betrayed would find this song valuable/sad/tear-jerking. Kick this one to the curb.
TheWife says:
A person might not be abe to help who they love, but they sure are responsible for the mess they make of a family’s life when they ACT on those selfish desires. The other woman IS a home wrecker and there is no reason to feel any sympathy for this horrible person b/c she had both eyes wide open when she made the childishly selfish decision to break-up a family & home b/c she “wanted” some guy. Well, the place she wanted in his life was already filled by a wife giving her best to a guy that probably didn’t deserve her best. So its just crap when the “other woman” says that the wife can’t love the guy life she does…please, its the wife that stays & tries to keep the family together & if that’s not love I don’t know what is. I’m the wife…I should know.
The Other Woman says:
Firstly, why debate the in’s and out’s of the song? We all know it’s wrong to be a cheater and cheated on. No news flash there, folks. But, it happens because no one can control whom they love, no matter what others have posted here. If you can’t feel any emotion from this song and video, I have to question if you have ever truly been in love.
I am not a country fan in the least, but this song hits a chord and is just haunting. I have been on both sides of the coin; NO ONE wins. No one is better than the other; homewrecker is a world I think should be done away with. How can someone ruin a happy home? If there was everything both parties needed, there would be no reason for the man or woman to look elsewhere. So, something is lacking, maybe in the relationship, maybe in the person themselves. But all parties suffer, no one walks away completely a winner no matter what. How happy can a home be if you’re “keeping it together for the kids”, or trying to make someone love you when they don’t? And wives are not blameless here, either. There is a reason he cheats. Work on that before you attack the other woman who is hurting and has much more to lose, and usually does, in the long run.
I am a female, this song does not offend me or send me back to the 50’s. Women sometimes beg a man to stay. It’s not from weakness nor from being a female; it’s life. When you love someone, male or female, you will do anything in your power sometimes to make them stay. Most of us have done it, if you haven’t, good for you, you were spared some heart break. But don’t make this about being sexist. Women beg, men beg. If a man was singing this, would there be men on this board up in arms over how sexist the song is? Give me a small break, Ladies.
It’s a song, it is emotional, hard to take sometimes and raw. And that is why it’s garnered this much attention. Apparently, there are people who can relate so there is more than one person in the world who has lived through this. Get a grip and move on. If you don’t like the song, shut it off. Get off your soapbox and stop with the whole cheating is wrong, this is sexist, you’re glorifying the other woman garbage. Is your life so small that a song effects you to the point that you are ranting and raving like a lunatic? If that’s how you act in real life, I am not surprised you are or have been cheated on.
Let’s put on our big girl panties and grow up. And find something constructive to do with all your passion. Flame me all you want, I could care less. Why? Because, I have a life and I will go on living it after I hit the submit button.
Joe from Your Blog says:
Well, I just want to say thanks all ya for leaving me with something to say on here! I’m sorry I’ve never been cheated on, or cheated on anyone. But I got to say, I have fell in love with someone before, and was an avid writer if I can call it that here…
When an artist, a poet, a person begins to want to show a bit about what they feel, on a subject it’s alot of thought, that goes to that, but I got to say when things didn’t work out with the person I fell in love with, I had about a year of writing where I didn’t have to search for what went wrong, or why I wasn’t good enough… I just had 1 go at showing that even though things didn’t turn out for us, me at this point… And though I was great at showing this girl that I had the idea of what a relationship would be for us… It wasn’t. When I pick up a pen and notebook now, I can’t fake a smile… and sure enough it’s hard to pick it back up… My guitar or pen. Anyhow I kind of feel that when Artists are performing for you, they have that in their mind, they don’t want to pen into your whole life… Just one go to show, fans a break from reality. A break from the frustration that can build up, be it with a funny bouncin dance, in a video, or anything they do… For that Country is golden, for that country music is still loved today. So here’s to Country music, Country Music Television, And the Dallas Cheerleaders! Thanks yall.
Reenie says:
Looks to me like this song did what every song is supposed to do - it made you all FEEL something. It doesn’t matter whether you like it or you don’t. It doesn’t matter whether you like country music or not. The fact that you took time to write ANYTHING here proves that this song moved you. Jennifer’s performance was very emotional. That’s her job as a performer and she did it well. I’m just glad they didn’t overproduce this song with too many instruments drowning out the vocals, which happens on too many songs these days. The simplicity of the arrangement added to the feelings. Love it or not, it made you feel something. I think that’s what you actually dislike about it because you are feeling things you don’t want to feel.
Dana says:
This song can be related to by many people. From both sides of the situation. As a wife that was cheated on I can say that it was the most painful time in my life. But, I chose to forgive and I did both of them. And after watching this video I get to see the side of the other woman and for me it makes me wonder who hurts more…the wife or the other woman?
Olivia says:
I think this is a VERY sad video. Its not like any other video, where its all about the person singing or what their doing or wearing, this one focus’ on the words and the message being sent out! Every time I watch it I feel the pain as she does in the video! I LOVE IT!
Loretta says:
This message is to Ann and and anyone else that shares Ann’s opinion that Jennifer Nettles is Faking in her video “Stay” Ann..I pitty you girl because it is obvious that you have never loved and don’t know a thing about love, life or country music. With an attitude like this you will never find it either and that is sad…really sad. You need to rewind!! and watch again. You are so very wrong.
Jilian says:
I completley agree with Loretta. How could you say she is faking it? If you look deeply into her eyes, you can see inside her soul. Her soul is broken because of this insidant. She has a fragile soul, just as I do. She is my idol because she sings the truth, and she can prove it. She means what she says. Honestly, you have to be heartless if you can sing a song like this and be faking it.
TheWife says:
I think its worth saying again that we can’t help who we love, but we can help what we do about those feeling. I’ve found that the “other woman” sees something happy that the wife has & wants its too. That’s just selfish. There doesn’t always have to be a flaw in the marriage first b/c the other woman only has to make a tiny crack that she’ll work at until its a big crack.
Its weird tho…I like this song, even tho I am the wife b/c it helps me to get out all my pent up anger at the other woman… Call me mean, but it helps me to see the other woman suffer, since she didn’t deserve to be happy in the first place from something that she tried to steal…
grafxgal says:
People… listen to the END of the song (story)… She finally says her will is getting stronger, she’s up off her knees (not begging anymore) and tells him the next time he wants to leave the wife’s bed for hers… to just stay… in other words… STAY with the wife… this affair is done; she’s had enough.
Ibelieveinme says:
I LOVED the song. Jennifer, you did it again. My husband and I saw you in concert in Milwaukee when you played for Brooks and Dunn. We knew you were going to make it BIG and your latest song and video is living proof.
As a side line, I took this song not making the “other woman” glorified at all. It does show the pain in what a betrayed person really does go through.
To the “Other Woman” - looks like in your situation, your married man went back to his wife - you had no stake him whatsoever. Yes, you have a life, poor, poor pitiful you.
Vicki says:
OMG, it’s just a song, yes, I love it but some of you people need to get a life. For the Wife, your husband cheated for a reason, as the title to the book, He’s just not into you.
Bonnie L says:
No wonderful performance or amazing talent or skyrocketing career can balance out failing at your marriage. So Jennifer can sing and perform which is great but maintaining a healthy marriage is far more important. I admire people that take their vows seriously and work out their marriages and don’t become part of one of the scurges of our society—-rampant divorce.
TYLER says:
THIS MOST TOUCHING AND HEART WARMING VIEDO MADE.. WE DONT NEED ALL THOSE LIGHTS AND SMOKE TO ENJOY A GREAT SONG.. JUST A NATURAL .. WELL DONE!!!
S Wilcox says:
This is by far one of the best and most powerful videos ever. If you have BTDT in any form - the pain is always raw and on the edge. I recall the first time that I really sat and watched and listened - I wanted to just scream - NOOOOOO you can do so much better and then when she sang about believing in herself enough to tell him to stay - the tears just flowed - beautiful, beautiful Job you guys. Here is to everyone that has found the power to know they deserve better and sending the strength to those that are in the midst of a crud - may you find your peace when it is time for you to.
dan says:
What is the importance of the necklace in her hand during the video. The camera keeps showing the stuff in her hand, even showing closeups - makes be feel like there is a “story” behind the chain in her hand
Jennifer says:
This is exactly what we writers set out to do, and ya’ all have really helped make this one a grand slam! awsome writing.
Casey says:
I have to say that Sugarland’s ” STAY ” has become one of my favorite song’s. It really hit’s you.
Anybody who has ever been cheated on know’s exactly what this song’s mean’s and even if you haven’t been , there has been someone in your life, that is just TOXIC to you and you need the to “STAY” , so you can get on with your life, even though inside it hurt’s like H#@#!!!!!
Great Song, Great Writing,
Casey
Rhode Island
JJmagoo says:
I saw a making of this video type thing on TV and it wasn’t supposed to go like it did. Kristian actually went over to her, when she started crying, because he wanted to help and the director told him to stay away…and the video went down the path that it did. He said it was hard for him sit there and let her cry, when she was obviously hurting. Watch him in the video, you’ll see it. I couldn’t imagine being there when she put this one on paper. It’s like a letter we’ve all written and tossed away. Beautiful. She wrote this song, she feels this song, this is her pain. Regardless of all of the opinions shared on this site on who’s cheating who, this is her and you don’t have to like it, this is her therapy. I respect someone who writes and performs their music and I have a new respect for Jennifer. I hope she never caves to popular music and continues to perform real songs. My absolute favorite line of the song is, “I’ve given you my best, why does she get the best of you.” That’s chilling.
Raymond says:
this is great but was really wondering if its really happened to her or is now?? anyone really know because hard to believe its just acting. if it is just acting she should audition for a movie roll!!!!
steveanna says:
i love this song, its the best most powerful song that came out in years sugar land is wonderful she has a awsome voice that impacts your life!!!!
Briana says:
I just walked in on my boyfriend and his wife…that I didn’t know know he had. This song…well…it touched me. It is beautiful.
dana says:
I am in a relationship with a married man. I met him when he was having difficulty in his marriage, and I was going through a divorce as a result of an extra-marital affair my husband had. Our relationship began with me trying to help him understand some of the things his wife was doing and how she might be feeling. As their relationship deteriorated, ours progressed. Eventually, we decided to quit seeing each other so that he and his wife could work on repairing the marriage. They went to counseling, but things did not improve. We stayed in contact by email, or an occassional phone call. Eventually, we began seeing each other again. We talked at length about our guilty feelings regarding his wife. I especially had concerns after what I had been through. I certainly did not want to be the person to cause this pain to a woman that I know he cares about. But, we could not ignore our feelings. He has two small boys that he feels he cannot walk away from yet. We have decided to see each other for awhile longer before he will separate, and divorce. It is so hard to be in this relationship, and even harder to think about not being in it. We talk often about how we ended up in this situation. Neither of us intended it. Neither of us was looking for it. But, neither of us can walk away. We love each other. The ironic thing is, I actually look forward to a time when I will be able to meet her, and hopefully develop a friendship with her. I have a lot of respect for her. I know he still loves her. They, unfortunately have difference that cannot be resolved. I do wish he would leave sooner, of course. Mostly because I feel like it is only fair to her, and every day that this continues, is just one more day that she may learn about us, and I do not want her hurt. I know how it felt. When I learned about my husband, it took away everything that was ever good in our marriage. It made me question everything. I do not want her to feel that. I know how it hurts. And, I know that he loves her. When you love someone enough to marry them, that does not go away. I understand that, and I admire that. I have great respect for her.
When I first heard STAY, I did not hear it from the beginning, and I thought it was from the viewpoint of the wife. I actually called him and told him that I heard it and that it was about a wife, and how it broke my heart. While we were on the phone, I looked up the lyrics, and read them to him, I realized then that it was my soul put to lyrics. I cried. He cried. I have since bought the disk, which I rarely do, and it stays on repeat in my car. He does not like that I listen to it, because he is scared I will “kick him to the curb”, since he is not ready to leave his young boys. I simply say, “don’t let it get to that point”. I know I will probably get a lot of feedback from wives, and I can understand it. I just know that we have tried to resist this, and have been unsuccessful. I know we should not act on it, but that is easier said than done. I do not know if we will ultimately be together or not, but for now I am still on my knees, because I love him more than I ever thought possible.
Jill says:
Although the lyrics are good. I hate the twangy, winey tones of the song. I turn it off everytime it starts!
Pat Cambell says:
I just want you to know that my son who is not even a year old loves your song “stay.” He can be going on and on and as soon as it comes on the tv he quiets down and just stairs at the tv and listens to the song. I would like to hear back to what you think of this. Whenever he is fussy i always put it on.
GrowUp says:
All ya’ll need to grow up! This is a song, performed in an emotional way that touches people. I personally couldn’t keep from crying when I saw it. I didn’t have the sound turned up very loud and couldn’t hear the song as well as I’d like to (I’m at work) but how could you see her break down like that and not feel anything.
Thank you to JJmagoo for the insight on the making of the video. It’s good to know those are REAL tears and not acting. I never doubted it. She does what Oprah calls the “ugly cry” when her face is so raw you can’t doubt her sincerity. I’m sorry her marriage ended - I’m sure there are two sides to that story.
I know from experience there are few marriages that end without sadness and remorse on BOTH sides. I was in an abusive marriage and you would think I would have been overjoyed to be out of it. But it was sad to see it end - not because I wanted the abuse but because there were so many “wasted” years.
As for the whole cheating thing… It happens. It has been going on since the beginning of time. It’s wrong. What more can you say. No you can’t help who you love and there are many relationships that start without one party knowing there is a marriage involved. Don’t judge - you never know when it will end up biting you in the tush. The best way to prevent it in your relationship is to cherish your partner. If you do that - why would they look elsewhere? It’s not always easy - but no one said it would be easy - they only said it would be worth it!
Ria says:
I relate to this song all too much. Recently, I became involved with a man that told me he was getting a divorce. Four months later, I find myself spending the Christmas season away from him while his wife visits from out of state with their children. He still tries to reassure me that he loves me and is going to get a divorce but now is not the right time. He says that their relationship has been bad from the beginning 15+ yrs. ago. I cherish whatever time I have with this person and I realize it may not end the way I want it to. The only thing I have control over is me and I love him. Thank god I was able to really experience it. Thank you Sugerland, for pouring you heart and soul into this song. It gave me a little therapeutic healing and backbone.
michel says:
so few songs have ever made me stop whatever I been doing and listen and the start to cry.this song is so real and something that although I am not proud to admit this, I m right of the middle of this same situation.. I feel no guilt only I know others would not understand. I not unrealistic he will never leave his wife or family , but I am so lonely, why can we uunderstand that a person can love more than one.
Margaret says:
Jennifer Nettles obviously has never been cheated on! She should be ashamed of herself, crying crocodile tears because the jerk is getting called to come home to his wife and family. A bunch of losers!!
WatchClosely says:
Note that Ms. Nettles stops “singing” three times; once at “I can’t take it any longer..”, again when she cries, and last at the end of the song. Obviously, the singing is a voiceover. This being the case, does it in any way alter the impact of the song knowing that she is simply acting the emotions, or does it make the video a first-class acting performance? By the reactions of the bloggers, clearly the latter. Perhaps she should get an Oscar rather than a Grammy for this.
JANET says:
Oh God Jennifer where were you 10 yrs ago. This song would have given me the courage to end a very long distructive realtionship. To this day I think about what I should have done differently and you nailed it. It makes me want to say hey this ones for you.
Go Jennifer!!!!
The Daughter says:
To Bonnie L.:
Honestly, I have no respect for you. You only admire people who “work on their marriages” and are not the “scourges” of society because they are divorced. As the daughter of a woman who spent years trying to “work out” her marriage to an alcoholic who was in the end unfaithful, I can tell you for a fact you have no idea what you’re talking about. Sometimes things happen and all the marriage vows in the world aren’t enough to save the relationship. My mother is no scourge to society. She is the bravest woman I know. She tried to help my father but in the end put her children first and knew when it was in hers and her children’s best interest to leave.
I do really love this song. I know a lot of people on here are complaining that this song is terrible because it’s about “the other woman” and whatnot. I felt when I heard it that is drives home the point that no one wins in this situation. I know from first hand experience how horrible it is to be the wife in the situation, how painful it is….my mother suffered deeply when my father was unfaithful. But it’s not often that the “other woman” gets to speak her piece, to tell her side of the story. And in the end, she gets up off her knees and tells to him to stay with his wife and leave her alone…there’s no flaw in that.
TRACY says:
jennifer nettles you rock!. I don’t think theres a song you “can’t” sing. Not only do you own your voice in country, but rock as well. “stay” is such a powerful song and your’e a powerhouse singing it. I love you guys keep us going!!!
Suzanne says:
Ever since I first heard this song, I knew she was singing from her heart. It made me cry. Every time I heard this song after that, it made me bawl. I was “the other woman” in a relationship about 6 months ago, and I didn’t know the guy was still married. He talked about the relationship with his wife like they’d already gotten the divorce. What ate me up so bad was the fact that not only did he lie to me, he lied to his own wife and acted like nothing was wrong for a long time. He lied to me the entire time we were together and I felt the exact same way when Jennifer talks about ditching the guy. Oh I let him have it. I sorta felt bad because I’m not one to be the bad guy, or the bitch, but I knew he deserved it. The good thing is I never managed to sleep with him because our relationship was all online, nothing actually happened in the “real world”, so to speak.
Anyways, this is such a powerful song. The video truly does draw you in and Jennifer delivers such a stellar, raw and poignantly perfect performance. I love this song. Jennifer Nettles is a truly gifted performer and I gotta say, this song is probably going to be one of the most talked about songs of the decade. I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if Sugarland won awards for this song & video. I am so glad Jennifer wrote ‘Stay’. Thank you so much!
lablover says:
Did someone else do this song? It’s driving me crazy. I’m sure I’ve heard it before.
Valerie From CT says:
I love the song Stay.
Jennifer sings that so good like it happen to her in her life.I like how she dresses and don’t wear all that make-up
like all the others do.I hope the Stay song makes it to #1
Tina says:
Sugarland ROCKS!!!! Jennifer and Kristian did a great jog with this song. You can take the song from both ends. You really brought the emotion to us all. Keep up the great stuff.
Darrel M. says:
There is only one word I can use when it comes to Jennifer Nettles. “AWESOME”
Keep up the great work Sugarland!
S. Myers says:
This song could not fit my situation any better. I went thru the same thing with the love of my life, (years ago). Everytime I see this video I cry, because of the love that I still have for this man. I have even had to download it as my ringtone, you could’nt have gotten to my said it better Jennifer, keep up the wonderful music.
jada crook says:
HEY I WAS JUST WORDERING HOW MUCH IT TOOK YOU TO WRITE AND SANG THIS SONG. THIS SONG TOUCHED MY HEART AND THEIR IS NO OTHER PERSON THAT FIXED MY PROPLMES BUT SURGERLAND AND GOD. GOD IS THE FIRST ONE BUT SUGERLAND IS THE SECOND ONE. WHEN I WATCHED THE VEIDO I FELT THAT WHEN I DO GET IN A RELATIONSHIP I WILL NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS SONG IF I HAVE THE PROPLEM THAT SUGERLAND HAD I WILL CALL ON HER FOR SUPPORT WHEN EVER THAT HAPPENS!!!!!!!!!!
I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU
SUGERLAND
ALWAYS JADA
RENEE says:
I was in this situation and I had to let go of him > he made his choice to stay with his wife . We realized we weren’t compatible anyways and i had just left a marriage after 18 years !
steve says:
I saw them before their first albulm was released in baltimore. I had the fortune to be back stage at an outside concert. they were great then and just keep getting better. Stay is their best yet……..
jackie says:
when I hear this song stay I cry right with her. Now i cry because If she changed some of the words for kid’s that are doing drugs and they see the video about what they are doing to there familys I feel she would get to alot of teen’s why do I say this its because I have 7 children and one the 14yr shot up for the first time and was smoking pot smokeing cig’s I just about died when I found out. I cryed and then I got mad and I asked him how did he know how much to use to shot up he said he didnt know he just did it. Omg I told him I could be baring you now I got so scard .Why am I telling you this Its Because each time I hear the song I put other words in it and change the part of the man put kids in it and thats just how we feel for are children I just wish I could tell them about that mabe they could make one to get to kids,teens,people, Does any one else understand what I mean. that song is so great! just so if any one reads this I did put my son in a boys home for what he did .He is only 14 and I want to see him grow up into a man.Some people in my town said o he will stop but it wasent there child I niped it in the butt and hes getting help now. thanks for at least reading this I didnt mean to put my sole into this blog I know its for the singers not for me to my prob out there jackie
Donald Stevens says:
Stay is about the best song I”ve been listening to Country Music for at least 50 years
LizzieSmith says:
hay i luv that song i was just wandering if you could e-mail me telling me how to make a blog because i have smoe things i would like to get out in the world and just for the info that song will definitly be on my dlog because it realy means a lot and i mean a lot a lot to me thanks and ma God bless you through all your hard times even if you dont bealeve in God he made you so he will always love you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ance agen thank you
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kate says:
i love the song and like sugarland alot
Anna Aldridge says:
I love this song by jennifer nettles it is so poweful it let you know that you don’t have to stay in a relationship just because of your benift everytime I hear It on the raido or tv just make me wanna cry.
sugarland ROCKS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dan says:
This song is about and affair? Huh, never made the connection. I thought it was a girl singing to her dog that she picked up as a stray then lost to it’s original owner.
P.S. Dawn, you’re a tramp regarless of how you feel personally about being the other girl.
Dan says:
Sorry about the type-o’s
Dan says:
Dana, just read your mile long entry. You’re in the same category as Dawn. FYI, on your knees is exactly where he wants you.
People, blogs make you targets for negative feedback. Learn from it.
Vicki says:
Just so every one know, Jennifer was married and was cheated on. Her husband left her for the other woman. The song was written because he made her feel like she was the other woman. Please get your fact right.
Brian says:
When I first lisnted to the album after I bought it when released on November 16, 2006- I knew this song would be a number one hit. The emotion that Jennifer puts into this song, as with every song puts this duo right next to “perfection.” I have heard cheating songs before from Gretchen Wilson and Sara Evans, but this would have to be my favorite.
Martha & Darin says:
I had the opportunity of a life time to meet Jennifer Nettles & Kristian at a meet & greet lunch through a local radio station in Dallas. My husband and I were lucky enough to have Jennifer & Kristian sit with my husband and I at our table (just the four of us) for lunch. They are by far the most REAL artists I have ever met. We talked for an hour about family, careers, life in general. It was as if we had known them forever. They are two very special people. The emotion Jennifer shows in that video - although it may be acting - she is so animated and emotionally charged just talking to her that you know the emotion in that video came from somewhere inside her and past (or maybe at the time current) experiences. We wish Jennifer & Kristian both the very best in all they do !!
maddiegal says:
This comment is for Janet. I have often said the same thing you stated in many different ways. I am often one who simply doesn’t get the whole idea of a woman being so wrapped up in a mere man that she lets it control her life.
Until recently. I have been falling in love with an old friend of nearly 20 years who is in a miserable marriage, and it has gotten very difficult for me to walk away from him. We have not crossed the line in terms of physical intimacy, but I feel like if I spend any time alone with him…that’s where we are headed. I argue with myself all the time about it on many different levels, but in the end… my heart and soul have surrendered long ago.
Not everything is at it appears. People live in married torment for YEARS.. I did… until they find the strength to see that they DESERVE to actually LIVE the life they have and not merely survive it.
I love him. And I pray daily that if he can’t work things out with his wife, and he says he doesn’t want to anymore, that he will find the strength to let her go. He wants her to be happy as well and never speaks badly about her. I am trying to remain true to our friendship and give time time. I can’t turn my back on him when he needs me right now, but I am also walking that fine line of protecting myself as well.
I have faith that love will indeed conquer all.
Beautiful song sent to me from my dearest friend who is trying to protect me. No judgment from her makes it easier to find my way. Rather than criticize women in this position, why not offer understanding?
WOW says:
i know it’s reality….but being engaged and looking so forward to being married i wonder why a song like this is so popular…..yes jennifer does an amazing job performing this with true emotion but it’s promoting affairs and screaming, feel sorry for me i fell for a married man. Cry about all you want, you set yourself up!!!!! I hope woman that do this get in return what they deserve….what goes around comes around. Down the road if it happens to you and your the married one, how will you feel then?
♥Doodle bug!♥ says:
i love this song! jennifer does a great job singing it and like WOW! this song really speaks out! i’ve heard other cheating songs but this one has to be my favorite one! now the way jennifer buts her emotions into this song is amazing!
Dawn says:
I think this song is gross and repugnant. To glorify the actions of the “Other Woman” is demeaning and repulsive. I’ve been a huge fan of Sugarland’s for a long time, but no more. One song or not, this particular song turned my stomach and I find it extremely offensive. I will not be buying anymore of their albums nor will I be supporting them in any status. I doubt they’ll miss my money but coming from someone who has all their albums and been to four of their concerts, I’ll certainly be saving some.
Brian Dixon says:
First and for most I love this song. Everytime I hear the song “Stay” it makes me cry. I recently lost my wife because she left me and the song reminds me how my love for her was strong, but now since she left me I have to move on. So listening to the song hurts me and it makes me stronger. And I would like to say to Sugerland to keep on writing beautiful songs.
Craig says:
Dawn. Get a life! She is NOT “glorifying” the actions of the other woman. She has simply written a song from a different perspective about a tragedy that happens everyday.
dana says:
I think it is easy to point your finger at the “Other Woman” and say she is a tramp. And, I am sure there are some affairs out there that are all about the sex. But, I assure you that many times it starts out as a friendship. Emotionally they cross the line. That does not happen because all is good in the marriage.
My husband cheated on me too. And, my first inclination was to call the woman a few choice words. But, when I had a moment to step back and reflect, I had to admit that I was as much to blame as she was. And, my husband certainly bore much blame. My marriage was not a good marriage. He sought the company of someone that met a need I was not meeting. Why his needs were not being met, is not an easy question to answer. Could be the busyness of our lives. Just over time, we became complacent in our marriage, and it allowed someone to enter in.
I am one who looked down on people involved in affairs. And, I am by no means proud of the fact that I am involved in one now. But, if you think that it is all about rolling around under sheets, you are mistaken. It is a painful relationship to be in. He loves me. I love him, but he is not ready to leave his wife. In a perfect world that is what would happen. It is the more fair thing for his wife. But, we do not live in a perfect world.
This song does not glorify an affair. It shows the angst of an affair.
maixia (my-sia) says:
i really like this song.i hope you give me good luck because i’m going to sing at my school…. i love your song so much. you are so good at singing.. if im paula in american idol i would totaly say yes…besides when i grow up im going to sing a song like you .im only 10 but i think i have a voice just like you….. well i would love to chat some more but i got to go…
YOU ROCK AT SINGING
crystal says:
WOW is really all i can say that song really toached my heart and soul. I know what its like to love someone who does’nt love you with there hole heart, and i know whats it like to finnaly realize there not true to you
Nitrogirl says:
Wow!! I have never seen so many varting points of view in one spot. I myself love the song and the performance. I recently saw Sugarland in concert and this song was their encore perfomarnce and so worth waiting for. I do not believe the song had anything to do with her divorce. Although many songs these great artists pen and perform are written from personal experience, many others are simply written based on life’s common acts and what is in the forefront at that time. Not every tune has to do with them personally. I use music as therapy, and I can relate to many songs of all genres. This particular song strikes nerves in many as these postings show. I do not condone adultery. I do, however, understand that sometimes we just can’t control who enters our lives and who we fall in love with. This song depicts a woman who fit in this category. She wasn’t being caniving or manipulative. She was screaming to be loved exclusively and that wasn’t going to happen. She “woke up” and took back control.
As for the woman who posted she is having an affair right now. Why would you post this? Just stating you can relate to the emotions of the song would have sufficed. I agree with the poster who told you to end it now. For a couple of reasons. 1. It is WRONG. Would you want it done to you? 2. If he is cheating on his wife–what makes you think he won’t do it to you? He obviously does not take vows seriously, so his promise or word is not worth squat. The same could apply to you. If you would carry on with a married man willingly–you too don’t take vows very seriously or you would just end it and find someone for yourself with some real morals.
This duo is fantastic. They have excellent chemistry together that comes across in their lyrics and mot definetly in their performances. I look forward to hearing from them for years to come.
countrygirl says:
I got one question. Did she sing this song after her divorce went through or when it was going on?
countrygirl says:
I got one question. Did she sing this song when her divorce was goin through or after?
Vivian says:
Thank you so much for this son I did not know who to tell my friend that I could not live the way thing where and well the song just sad every thing I need to say word by word and every time I hear the song well it also make me cry and well even thow i still love hime it is hard to share and well
brad says:
i am in aggreement with jez,this basic song should be
at billboard number one to wake up the recording brass
that seem to feel there has to be a visual hook in
todays country viedos as well as a back drop of enticing watchability to draw viewer attention/spending.this song is
an example that quality still remains the devining
element in country music that makes an impact,and recalls classic,simple,understated country music.
Vicki says:
She wrote and sing this song at the time her divorce was going on.
Jess says:
She’s not crying because of the song. …They had originally planned to do something completely different for the video till she got the call that her dad died. So they just filmed her singing the song.
ray says:
This girl can sing! As for the song, it is just a “Get Your Tongue Out of my Mouth ‘cuz I’m Kissing You Goodbye” song meant to get people all emotional so they will buy the album. I persoannly am so tired of the air play that I change the station every time it comes on. Sugarland, PLEASE RELEASE A NEW SINGLE SO THEY STOP PLAYING THIS ANNOYING SONG!!!!!!
autumnmist says:
This song hit home with me. It says what I feel and have felt everyday for the last four years. Everytime he walks away after telling me when we are together we are one, no him, no me just one. Only it is her bed he shares, her he goes home to, her that gets the “best of him”. I love this song! I am getting stronger and I truly don’t want to be lonely any longer. Thank you Sugarland for putting into song what my heart cries out everytime he leaves.
vitoria says:
dear sugerland,
I love youur music.I likestay but to me you did beter. But your music is sooooo good that my ipod is full whithit.i love april showers
LYNN says:
BEST SONG I HAVE EVER HEARD IT IS SO REAL AND DOWN TO EARTH
Jordan-Lee says:
I’ve been trying not to like this song, especially since the neighbors seem to think that it summons the devil himself. But I can’t stop listening to it! I like it so much!
Christina says:
in response to “Ann”.
1st- im curious why you would take time out of your day just to comment that you dont like the song. If you think the lyrics are poor then why are you reading an article about it and then blogging?
2nd- not only is jennifer not acting or faking tears in the video, she was actually crying when she sung the song and they left the footage in since it was so raw and emotional.
Cincy Joy says:
I can relate to Sugar and their music and lyrics, it makes me feels as if it expresses the words I can only think to express how I feel
Sharon says:
Sugarland ,Your song stay is beautiful ,you make it sound like its from your own heart ,I hope you Jennifer were never hurt by someone like this .You done a beautiful job singing this song .I love you guys Thanks for the song.
Chelsea says:
This is my all time favorite song, i listen to it at least ten times a day! I love the message it sends to people and the video is great!
~!~pamela~!~ says:
this song is my MOST favorite song ever!!!i love your voice!!!NEVER stop singing you are fantastic!!!
Kylie says:
LOVE THIS SONG! BEST SONG EVER!!!!!!!!
your #1 fan,
Kylie
**Michelle** says:
i love this song and the video is amazing!!! it will make anyone with a heart cry no matter what you believe. You only have one life to live and you do the best that you can with the situations you are given. Everybody should just want to be happy in life but with happiness comes sadness. And until you have been in their particular situation and walked in someone elses shoes your opinion is non-exsitent, so say what you want your just blowing hot air. I’m sorry that someone people who posted on here life sucks and they come on here and take it out and act ignorant. opinions are like ass holes every one has one and they can be ugly and smelly at times, but what can you do!!??
Ham says:
Praying for four buckles on the back of this tune, SL.
bballmom says:
Good luck Sugarland…Tonight will be special…
skymax says:
sugarland i am in shock, taylor swift get real. It was bad enough when she won over carrie, but your video stay! someone needs to recount the votes. i voted for you 357 times during the show, there is no way she won with all the fans that you have.
I’ll see you in dayton, ohio on the 24th, i also drove 5 hours to pikeville to see you. each mile was worth it.
Diane says:
Sugarland has always been my favorite and and tonite proved why. Such class and graciousness! I love every one of your songs, those released and the rest! You both deserve it. I cried when you won! I am sooooo happy for you. Keep the faith and the future will hold many more nights like tonight! God Bless you.
Elizabeth says:
I always hated the “other woman” I wondered why she couldn’t control herself and leave a relationship in peace. And then it happened to me. I realized that my feelings about a man that I had always cared about deeply went far past friendship. He felt the same way. Because he was in a relationship with my friend, we never acted on it, but I can let you know that it is not easy to just ignore and move on. When you really love someone, there is no easy way out. There is constant pain knowing that you can never have a relationship with the one you love. And the relationship is not just a physical one like so many believe. It is a true, deep, real love that you must leave behind. I would like to see everyone who criticizes it go through the same thing and see how well they react to it. There is no way to come through it unscarred. I have finally moved on with my life, but I will never forget the anguish that I felt because of a forbidden relationship. I am so thankful for this song, because it is my story. It was about time that someone portrayed it. Thank you Sugarland.
BROSZ says:
Congratulations on your vido award from CMT for STAY. Very deserving. I have the other versions from JNB. This one’s the best.Seen ya’ll in San Antonio and Cedar Rapids. See in July at Cheyeenne Frontier Days. Jennifer love your voice, don’t ever change. Keep up the great music. Your fans love it. Can’t wait till your new album comes out.
smyers says:
This is the best video I’ve seen in a long time. I was very disappointed that it did not get video of the year. Taylor Swift take a dive!. I’m so tired of seeing your videos 3-4 times every morning that I have to turn the channel!
SUGARLAND YOUR THE BEST
Edie says:
I agree this is a beautiful song and no need for all the glitz and glitter.
She done this in a way that made you listen to the words and feel the heartache she was feeling. More artist need to do this with their music.
Just guitar and song.. That is the way I also like to perform and it does have an impact on the audience.
I know I love this song from the moment I heard it and it had a powerful impact on me. I felt it.
Rachel says:
I love this Song and as Rob said I relate to it because my Husband is an active duty U.S Marine and I support and love him & what he does for me & his country, I wish that sometimes he could just “stay” with me.
Also I love Sugarland and saw them live on the CMT tour in November in San Diego which rocked nothing fake about it.
Kourtney says:
I love this Song and sometimes. I think it relates to my life because my mom and dad are split up and I wish sometimes he would of never meet the other woman and my mother woulnt of had to ask him to “Stay” Yea I remember the other woman calling and him leaving. The bad thing was that she was also married!!! Yea I know this woman she is my best friends mom and my sister and I hate her. Im the youngest kid of the family and I they think I dont understand but my mom and I have talked alot about it so I do understand more than they know. The divorce was final June 17,2005. My mom is know married to a good man and I love him very much b/c he has done alot for me. My dad is still going off and on with the other woman and I think he needs to open his eyes a lil! I still see my dad and also still hate the other woman!!
Lisia says:
Hey I really like this song just so you know it really rocks…… so this is a true song really omg well ya’ll rock bye
ryan says:
this is such a great song i love to hear her voice so does my son everytime it plays he sit and linsens to it and i love that group it is nuttin but realy good music
mark says:
stay is beautiful song. you have to go deep down into the heavy underlying aspects of stay. the deep emotional aspects of the song stay. you can see that there were some very hard core painful emotion in the video. it has a very rare quality of serious pain and emotional heartache. bless her sweet heart, jennifer poured her heart out for everyone to see. beautiful song. makes your heart go out for her and total respect for jennifer nettles
Mike says:
“Stay” was my favorite last year. And to see Taylor Swift win the video of the year, (who by the way can’t sing a lick) made me hate the “suits” in country music even more than I already did. Watch the Country Music awards this year. They screwed up and put the singing out “pre-mix”. In other words they didn’t have them mixed to where Taylor sounded good. It was terrible. But now if you have a rich daddy you can buy a career. Anyway, Jennifer Nettles has done it the ole fashion way, singing in club bands for ages, honing her craft and as other posters have said, Sugarland will be around carrying the “real torch” of soulful country music for a long time to come. I only wish Kristian would put some “real mandolin licks in their songs”.
Iris Jean Marx says:
I have not seen a video that moved me more, in a long time. Jennifer is not afraid to show what makes country music, country music: love, loss, heartache. If you can’t feel that way about a song, you shouldn’t sing it. Of course their other songs rock. I just went to a concert a couple weeks ago, and these kids are going all out. Keep it up!
Lizzy A.K.A Purple Bra says:
i love this song sugarland i have it in a CD and i hear it a million times. it really is touching thats why i danced it for my tryouts in Lorenzo de Zavala Middle School located in La Joya TX.(i tried out for the drill team AKA Jr.Jewelettes wich is a group of girls who learn to dance pom jazz modern and lyrical ive been it for only one year and i tried out for officer and made it!there are 6 spots to be an officer 1st it is major 2nd it is captain 3rd it is co-captain 4th it is leutanit 5th it is second leutanit and last but not least third leutanit. all of this spots are very important in the drill team because they are leaders that try very hard to keep everything together in other words role madols. that is why i am overjoyed i made it as 2nd leutinant) Eversince ive heard this song ive dreamed of you coming down here to the Rio Grande Valley’s Dodge Arena to performe live.Hopefully u read this and make a huge exception and come! if u do itt will just be amazing. Dont forget about zavala it totally roxs ! I LOVE THIS SONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Cassie says:
This song is sooo… awesome! It totally rocks! Jennifer Nettles is a wonderful singer!
brittany says:
yall’ need to give her a break, she was going through a rough time when she wrote this,have a heart!!
hannah says:
actually brittany… she was happily married when she wrote this song. its not a true story for her ;)
Jacquie says:
I love this song. Jennifer is a great actress as well as singer and songwriter and that is why it is such a great video. According to her she wrote the song just to show a different side to an age old problem. Those are real tears and real emotion–that is what real acting is all about. It does not mean however that she had to have lived the song. Someone said she had just learned her father had died maybe that is where the emotion came from. Keep up the great work Jennifer!
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Marie says:
I’m involved with a married man. But it’s not as if I started having feelings for him after he was already married. We work together, he’s one of my bosses. He’s 24 and I’m 18. We began flirting but never really thought anything of it because of the age difference. We were getting extremely close, as friends at first. He even tried to set me up with his younger best friend who also worked with us and I had liked for a while. Well things between his friend and I didnt go so well. So, he tried to console me, complimenting me and flirting. I assumed it was to make me feel better. Well months before all this happened, he met his current wife. He was completely smitten and initially I was happy for him. He asked her to marry him and I was so proud of him. But as time progressed and the wedding neared, we started talking more. One night he confessed to me that he had feelings for me. I was suprised but tried to play it cool. I knew deep down that he was having cold feet and more than likely didn’t mean what he was telling me. Well we got more and more attached and basically were as close as a couple. We haven’t cheated physically (which was my decision), but we’ve definately cheated emotionally. But. When his wedding came around, he married her. He went on with the wedding. We stopped texting and talking. About 2 or 3 weeks after the wedding he texted me again. He talked about how much he missed me and so on. Now, he’s back at our store (after being transferred) so it’s not as if I can completely ignore him anymore. But it just hurts so bad. Its kind of a “if we only had known” type deal. We both had feelings for each other and kept them secret until it was too late. He’ll text me on his way to work, on his way home FROM work and sometimes after his wife has gone to sleep. They don’t have kids and have only been married for a month but I can’t keep this up. I dont want his marriage to be ruined. I know its going to mean me breaking my heart because I DO care so much for him. But to be honest I dont know if I would want him even if he did leave her. If he will cheat WITH me he will cheat ON me. I’m going on “school leave” at the end of the month, so it would be easy for me to ignore his texts and forget about him. But i’m struggling. I know what I need to do but I can’t imagine life without him in it. I’m torn. This song completely portrays the anguish that the other woman has to deal with. And it has definately given me the strength to end things with this man. Its what’s best for us both.
susan says:
I do not like this song at all. Women who are involved with a married man dont deserve a voice, let alone a song. Try being the wife - the woman who is married to a man who is cheating. Very selfish and insecure woman do this sort of thing and I hope they all get what they deserve, a cheating husband. Wrong is Wrong
Been There says:
The song is awesome and some of us actually can relate to being in love with the wrong man…the married man. But just because he’s married does not mean we don’t love him with all our heart. I’ve been in love with a married man for over 20 years and I cried myself to sleep many a nights. But there comes a time you just have to realize you dont have to live this way. No one every blames the man, never have, never will. I don’t think she got the best of him….Now looking back, there was not a best of him. He was only half good to both of us. She has him, but I don’t call her the winner. I call him the loser.
Pammycakes says:
Before I viewed this video I was not a country music fan. However, after watching, I gained an interest in the genre. This video depicts what true “music” should be, no matter what genre and I hope others follow.
Jill says:
The facts on the issue portrayed in this song:
Humans’ consistent inability to speak their truth is what keep us AND puts us in compromising situations. When we do put ourselves or find ourselves in compromising situations, it’s more tolerable to justify our actions than face the truth. Or sometimes, we’re so far removed from our authentic, connected self, we can’t see the truth.
The reality is this: no one is trapped in a relationship in the great U.S. of A. No one needs to BE in a committed relationship. But when one chooses to be committed - connected exclusively to one other - it DOES show a clear lack of character, as well as an unwillingness or inability to evolve/grow/be good/become better when you allow a 3rd party into the relationship. Simply put, the betrayer is wrong.
And the 3rd party cheater is wrong. Whether he or she knows about the betrayed spouse/partner before getting involved or at any point thereafter, it is wrong on many levels. Clearly causing harm to the betrayed spouse for the reasons stated. But clearly causing harm to themselves. Anyone in this position is accepting only part of a person. Why? This person’s situation IS sad. Because it doesn’t take a psychiatry major to understand something happened to this person, or something is missing inside this person to put/stay with somebody who is committed - even if only legally - to another. And why would this person knowingly hurt another human being (or more if there are children involved)? And why would this person risk their health by being with someone who is openly in a relationship, and could very well be involved sexually with them, too? And - most important - why is this person not comfortable with being completely, entirely, emphatically happy with ALL of themselves (yes, alone) and, instead settle for losing themself in order to have only a portion of another?
Because as so many have eloquently stated before me, the one in the committed relationship who cheats is not complete. Something DID happen to him or her, too, and/or something IS missing inside of him/her to choose to escape to the sweetness and excitement of the “secret other” rather than embrace the opportunity for growth within and within their committed relationship. The latter is the tough, and yet more evolved, mature and, ultimately, rewarding thing to do. Regardless of whether the committed relationship stays afloat.
Character is what it is. Our behaviors result. And that IS TRUTH.
This song is beautiful, raw and authentic. I’m not a country fan typically, and I’m sold. Yes, I have been at both sides of the fence with regards to the topic. And in my own current evolution, I feel guilt and remorse ONLY for hurting others in the past. And I ache and despair over the loss of the man I loved (and whom I chose to leave)…because he chose to escape to others (both real and virtual) rather than ask for what he needed from me. By the time he asked, and begged me not to go, it was too late.
Everyone: be well. Commit to being better each day - for yourself and for others. As you do, your love for yourself will grow and you’ll undoubtedly find you won’t NEED others to fill you up. You’ll be enough. And when you choose to allow another person to share your life, it will be a no-brainer that you’ll insist on having the WHOLE of the other.
Stating these facts don’t make me better, smarter, more evolved or even judgmental. This just IS. It IS THE TRUTH.
Terry says:
I’ve been reading several of the comments left on here. Some are very good and some are…well, just obtuse.
As for me, I can relate to this song on a personal level. Even though the subject matter of the song deals with a cheating husband and the “other woman”, I found it refreshing to hear the other womans point of view. We are all human, and to a degree can’t help who we have feelings for. While it is wrong to act on those feelings if you’ve already committed yourself to a marriage, some people have a situation at home that is less than perfect and they go looking for something somewhere else. So for the other woman who enters this situation knowing full-well the consequences, it should be stated out front…buyer beware. Anyway, I love the song and the way the video was put together. Take care, and I hope all of us eventually find peace and happiness.
Shannon says:
Here is my personal view on this song. I’m stuck in it right now. I’ve been with my bf on and off for 5 years. Yes we’re broken up. We’ve been broken up for 5 months or so now. However. We’ve also talked thru these last 5 months just like every other time. The other day I found out that as we’re talking and “trying to get back together” that he’s been sleeping with another girl. We’re 21. She’s 17. So I’ve spoken with her and what its left at right now is who does he want. I mean after 5 yrs I’m willing to give it my all but if he wants her thats where it is. Basically this song is making me realize that I’m more than what he sees me for… I’m about to walk away… Can’t really take it anymore. I mean last week he tried to sleep with both of us on the same day. He’s a pig. And for awhile I thought of this song as my way to say you’re mine. Stay with me. Now I’m looking at is as a way to say, you were mine, but I’m gonna stand up for myself and move on because you’re not worth it for me. It’s just nice to know that I’m not the only one that feels this way. Jennifer did a great job with the song and the vid!
deborah cham says:
I’m a black female who heard this song for the 1st time on the Grammys and fell completely in love with it. I must get this CD. Totally awesome song that so many women can relate too.
Connie says:
I think the video is TOTALLY AWESOME - it makes the song real.
Amy says:
For the most part, I love Sugarland. However, I hate this song. The melody is pretty and I can actually catch myself singing along with it, until I listen to the words. I have to change the station every time the song comes on. It brings back too many painful memories. Had this not happened to me, I wouldn’t have a problem with the song.
Being the wife of a husband who “made a mistake”, I cannot understand why anyone would choose to be the “other woman”. I know how horrible I felt when I found out, and I’m sorry.. but there is not enough pain in the world to make the other woman feel anything close to what I felt. She also was married.
I frankly don’t give a damn how the “other woman” felt. She chose to be in a relationship with a married man (I do understand that there are circumstances when the other woman does not know that the man is married), and there is no song that would ever make me feel sorry for her. You sleep in the bed that you make.
I would actually love to know how many of these ladies that are “the other woman” have acutally been in the wife’s position. I’d say none of them, or they wouldn’t choose to be in a relationship with a married man, knowing how badly the wife will be hurt. I would be ashamed to post that I was in a relationship with a married man.
TheOther says:
It was hard to listen to this song….I feel in love with a married man I’m only 20 and he’s 22…we would talk at work and had such great chemestry I feel for him he then told me he had fallen for me but he was married :( it’s so hard to know that the one you love is with someone else I love him so much I don’t want to ruin his marriage si when I heared this sing it hit home I read the comments by other everyone has their own oppinion but you can’t blame anyone for falling in love….it’s such a strong emotion!! Great Job on this song stay is so powerfully and the video is amazing
The Wife says:
Love the song! Makes me cry every time.I just feel the pain. I was cheated on by my husband of 18 years. We are trying to work on our marriage it is sooo very hard to open up and trust again.The other woman could have cared less about me I talked with her and she is just a selfish bitch.Iam the one in pain and cant seem to get the thought of the other woman out of my head. She came into not only his life and ruined it she ruined mine.I know there are different situations for all cases.I just wish the pain would go away!! I wish people cared a little more. Even though Iam the wife I still think the song is that a song and it is beautiful!!
Rebecca says:
ummmmmmmmm are you all really condoning affairs? I guess you think it’s ok? hahahaha wowwwwwwww
Another Wife says:
Rebecca - good for you for stating what many of these folks seem to be missing! Yes Jennifer Nettles has a lovely voice, but it doesn’t make the subject matter of the song lovely.
To The Wife: that other woman only has the power that you give her. I realized that recently. How great that you gave her the opportunity to talk to you. It sounds like she didn’t have the courage to be the woman we’re supposed to be and show the true remorse she should feel. Cut her loose. She has NO POWER here. There’s only one being that has any power to acknowledge. God. Plain and simple.